1.) Do we trust each other? 

Trusting someone means that you feel safe with them. You never have to worry about them harming you physically, mentally, or emotionally. When you trust each other, you don’t have to hide anything, and you can tell the other person whatever you need to, without worrying about how they will react. 

1. 2.) Do we have an equal say when making decisions? 

Life is full of decisions that you and your partner will have to make. Do we want to have kids? Where are we going to live? Whose family are we going to visit for Christmas this year? It is normal to disagree on questions like these, and have to come to a compromise, but the problem comes when you feel like you have no say when these decisions are being made. You should always feel like your input matters in a relationship, and that your feelings and thoughts are being considered. 

1. 3.) Do we support each other? 

Spending a lot of time with your partner is important, but it is also important that you support each other with individual things. Encouraging each other to accomplish things on your own and feel proud about them is a key part of a healthy relationship. It is not only the things that the two of you do together that matter. You may be partners, but you are still two individual people who have goals and desires. 

1. 4.) Can I be myself in this relationship? 

There is little that is more empowering than getting to be yourself. A healthy relationship won’t require you to change any part of yourself to please the other person. Your interests, hobbies, and personality are all things that make you unique. They are things that should be celebrated, not changed. 

1. 5.) Do we communicate honestly? 

Without honesty, it is impossible for a relationship to be successful. Open and honest communication means not hiding anything from your partner. Telling the truth about how you feel about them, and what you want out of the relationship is key when establishing healthy communication and trust.